On the Science of Changing Sex

Autogynephilia Debunked !!!

Posted in Editorial by Kay Brown on April 1, 2019

In this essay I show definitive proof that Autogynephilia does not lead to late onset gender dysphoria, transsexuality, or transgenderism…

 

APRIL FOOLS !!!

No, autogynephilia most definitely leads to late onset gender dysphoria!

For decades now, a vocal minority of self-styled “transactivists” have sought to “debunk” the well documented phenomena of autogynephilia that underlies the eitiology and sexual histories of late onset / late transitioning / non-exclusively androphilic transwomen’s need for transition.  But all attempts to “debunk” the phenomena have failed for the simple reason that autogynephilia both exists and is near universally acknowledged by late onset transwomen.

Further Reading

Essay demonstrating that autogynephilia is the cause of late onset gender dysphoria.

Essay on the nature of autogynephilia and expressions

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Models of Androphilic Transwomen Etiology

Posted in Editorial, Transsexual Theory by Kay Brown on March 29, 2019

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There are several models of how androphilic males become gay men or transwomen.  The three most common are shown above.  Homosexual Transsexuals (HSTS = androphilic transwomen) share many traits with gay men as populations.

Model 3 is very unlikely, but is very popular with autogynephilic transwomen because it allows them to claim that they are on the same “spectrum” as androphilic transwomen, they would just be on the far left, showing very little femininity.  The problem with that is that pesky autogynephilic sexuality which HSTS and non-transwomen don’t share, on top of the well documented issue of late onset of their gender dysphoria, or even awareness of any gender issues in most until adolescence or later.  There is no evidence that supports Model 3 in HSTS.

Model 2 is problematic given the very strong evidence of greater femininity, both in early adolescence, and in a range of adult sexual behaviors, that correlate highly with each other in gay men and that HSTS transwomen show up as being on the far feminine end of that spectrum.  So, a variance in femininity definitely correlates with the likelihood of being HSTS vs. a gay man.

This leaves Model 1 as being the most likely, with lots of evidence to support it.

I did not create this graphic and I’m not certain of its origin, though given the text, I suspect it comes from a sexologist.  Indeed, I must take exception to the comment regarding non-Western cultures.  We have evidence, data, that shows that even in Samoa, there are non-fa’afine androphilic males.  In southern Mexico, where famously, muxe who live as HSTS and are respected rather than stigmatized as in the Anglo-sphere, there are two forms of “muxe”… one that is HSTS and one that is essentially male identified, masculine behaving, to wit, gay men.  My point?  That when cultures are less femmiphobic and homophobic, both HSTS and gay men coexist.  Our own culture has been slowly coming to the same point.  While the line between HSTS and gay men may not be one that is strictly taxonic, it cannot be said that it is strictly cultural either.  The likelihood that one will self identify and take a cultural position as HSTS / transwoman may vary by culture – as individuals have to find a place in their given culture as best they can.  (Consider that in the US prior to 1961, homosexual or transgendered males were both criminalized and medically stigmatized in all fifty states, driving gays into the closet and HSTS underground, but both existed.)  But, even in the least to the most transphobic cultures, both gay men and HSTS transwomen coexist.

Further Reading:

Essays on Etiological Conjectures concerning HSTS

Essay on correlations in gay men and HSTS

Essay on “passability” of HSTS vs. AGP transwomen

 

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Fraternal Birth Order Effect Applies to First Born Male Children Too

Posted in Editorial by Kay Brown on March 22, 2019

critical-thinkingA while back, I wrote an essay that showed that androphilic Male-To-Female transwomen had a greater Fraternal Birth Order Effect (FBOE) than gay men as populations.  This is evidence that gender atypical androphilic males are more likely to have a FBOE etiology than more gender typical androphilic males.  But I saw pushback from some in the transgender community that didn’t understand the science, didn’t understand that there could be, and is strong evidence that there are, other etiological factors that can cause gender atypical androphilia in males.  There was anecdotal comments about, and even a long list of, first born androphilic transwomen (at least one included me), as “proof” that the FBOE had nothing to do with androphilic transwomen’s etiology.

Sigh…

This reminds me of the type of argument that goes like this, “I had a large lunch today… so clearly there is no hunger problem in the world.”

But, in any event, we now have evidence that the underlying cause of the FBOE can and has operated in some first born androphilic males, including transwomen.  One of the chief hypothesis of the cause of the FBOE is the ‘Maternal Immune Response’ in which key proteins in male only development during a pregnancy enters the mother’s blood stream where the mother’s immune system creates antibodies to fight off a mistaken “infectious agent”… the male child.  This in turn passes back to the male fetus where it interferes with normal male sexually dimorphic brain development, leading to a feminized brain.  The FBOE effect would then come about because each male pregnancy increases the amount and strength of the immune response.  Each male pregnancy increases the chances of the next male pregnancy resulting in an androphilic gender atypical male child, including the chance of an androphilic MTF transkid.

f2.large_We now have what may be the ‘smoking gun’ and at the same time strong evidence that it may also operate in first born males, not just subsequent male children.  Testing for a specific antibody suspected to be the cause has shown that mothers of gay sons have more than those who have had only straight sons.  What’s more interesting, is that mothers of only first born gay sons and androphilic MTF transkids showed the same effect, as this graph shows, though not as strong as those mothers of gay sons who had older brothers… indicating a progressive effect leading to the progressive FBOE.

Let me state that again, the underlying cause of the FBOE can and does operate in some first borns !

So, Please.  No more bad logic regarding potential FBOE etiologies in androphilic transwomen?

Further Reading:

Essay on FBOE being a stronger effect in androphilic transwomen

Reference:

Bogeart, et al, “Male homosexuality and maternal immune responsivity to the Y-linked protein NLGN4Y” (2018)
https://doi.org/10.1073/pnas.1705895114

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How to Ruin Sex Research

Posted in Editorial by Kay Brown on February 22, 2019

Kay Brown 2010Hot off the (virtual) presses is a new editorial in the Archives of Sexual Behavior by J. Michael Bailey that is a must read for anyone concerned with sexology research and education.  It starts with recounting a recent disturbance during a presentation by one of his graduate students, a young researcher that I personally have great expectations for,

On November 10, 2018, my graduate student, Kevin Hsu, gave an invited presentation at the annual meeting of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSSS) in Montreal. The occasion was his receipt of the society’s annual “Ira and Harriet Reiss Theory Award” for “the best social science article, chapter, or book published in the previous year in which theoretical explanations of human sexual attitudes and behaviors are developed.” His paper was on gynandromorphophilic men, or men attracted to transwomen who have not had vaginoplasty but have penises.  …  However, an attendee repeatedly and aggressively interrupted the presentation. This person, the psychologist Christine Milrod … strongly objects to the scientifically well-studied idea that gender dysphoria that begins after puberty in natal males is caused by autogynephilia, or a male’s sexual arousal by the fantasy of being a woman. Milrod was asked repeatedly by the audience and the moderator to let the presenter continue.

From there, Dr. Bailey calls attention to the problem of allowing transfolk to define what is and isn’t allowable subject matter for research.  As well as recommending reading the editorial, I wish to add a few comments of my own.

First, I know from talking to many transfolk over the years, that most autogynephilic transwomen know in their heart of hearts that the science is accurate, even as they wish that the researchers and folks like me would not talk about it.  Second, we know that quite a few “early onset” transwomen wish that “late onset” transwomen “activists” would allow them to speak for ourselves and not have to pretend that there isn’t an obvious difference between them… and that society in general recognized their unique needs.

Also, to those disruptive “activists”, on behalf of those “silent” transwomen who don’t appreciate the unwarranted attempts by autogynephilic transwomen in denial to shout down sex researchers… SHAME ON YOU !

To the sex research community:  There are those who support and appreciate the work you do, even if it leads to uncomfortable knowledge.

Further Reading:

Essay on Hsu’s paper on Gynandromorphophilia in Autogynephiles

Reference:

J. Michael Bailey, “How to Ruin Sex Research”, Archives of Sexual Behavior, (Feb. 2019)
https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10508-019-1420-y

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Stolen History II

Posted in Editorial by Kay Brown on December 21, 2018

Kay Brown 2010In an essay I wrote nearly two decades, I wrote how transhistory is stolen from us, how especially the history of transmen is erased, usurped, and misgendered to support Oppression Theory, misrepresenting our lives and identities instead of respecting them.  Well… just this month, the New York Times has stolen a piece of our history again.  But in the spirit of internet meme corrections, “There I fixed it for you…”  I offer this edited version of Charley Parkhurst’s Obit in the Times as it should have been,

Overlooked No More: Charley Parkhurst, Gold Rush And Transgender Legend

A swashbuckling, one-eyed stagecoach driver lived his life as a man. After his death, the revelation that he was transgender provoked widespread astonishment.

Since 1851, obituaries in The New York Times have been dominated by white men. With Overlooked, we’re adding the stories of remarkable people whose deaths went unreported in The Times.

By Tim Arango (corrected by Kay Brown)

Charley Parkhurst was a legendary driver of six-horse stagecoaches during California’s Gold Rush — the “best whip in California,” by one account.

The job was treacherous and not for the faint of heart — pulling cargos of gold over tight mountain passes and open desert, at constant peril from rattlesnakes and desperadoes — but Parkhurst had the makeup for it: “short and stocky,” a whiskey drinker, cigar smoker and tobacco chewer who wore a black eyepatch after being kicked in the left eye by a horse.

And there was one other attribute, this one carefully hidden from the outside world. When Parkhurst died in 1879 at age 67, near Watsonville, Calif., of cancer of the tongue, a doctor discovered that the famous stagecoach driver was biologically female. Charley, it turned out, had chosen to masculinize his dead name Charlotte.

“The discoveries of the successful concealment for protracted periods of the female sex under the disguise of the masculine are not infrequent, but the case of Charley Parkhurst may fairly claim to rank as by all odds the most astonishing of them all,” The San Francisco Call wrote not long after his death, in an article that was reprinted in The New York Times under the transphobic headline “Thirty Years in Disguise.”

Charlotte Darkey Parkhurst was born in 1812 in New Hampshire. Abandoned by his parents, he was consigned to an orphanage, from which historians believe he ran away wearing boys’ clothes. He wound up in Worcester, Mass., where he got a job cleaning horse stables. He also found a mentor, Ebenezer Balch, who taught him how to handle horses.

“The story goes that while in the poor house he discovered that boys have a great advantage over girls in the battle of life, and he desired to become a boy,” The Providence Journal in Rhode Island wrote respectfully of his identity as a man in an article after his death, as reporters on both coasts tried to piece together his life.

After working as a stagecoach driver on the East Coast for several years, Parkhurst journeyed west, like so many Americans seeking fortune and reinvention in California. He traveled by ship to Panama, traversed a short overland route, and then boarded another ship to San Francisco, where he arrived in 1850 or 1851.

In California, he quickly became known for his ability to move passengers and gold safely over important routes between gold-mining outposts and major towns like San Francisco or Sacramento. “Only a rare breed of men (and women),” wrote the historian Ed Sams in his 2014 book “The Real Mountain Charley,” “could be depended upon to ignore the gold fever of the 1850s and hold down a steady job of grueling travel over narrow one-way dirt roads that swerved around mountain curves, plummeting into deep canyons and often forded swollen, icy streams.”

Parkhurst wore “long-fingered, beaded gloves,” Sams wrote, supposedly to hide his “feminine” hands. He was considered one of the safest stagecoach drivers — not a daredevil, like so many of his contemporaries — and had a special rapport with the horses. He drove for Wells Fargo, at least once moving a large cargo of gold across the country.

A 1969 article about Parkhurst in the Travel section of The New York Times evoked some of the perils he faced: “Indians and grizzly bears also were a major menace. The state lines of California in the post-Gold Rush period were certainly no place for a lady, and nobody ever accused Charley of being one.”

“The only feminine trait her acquaintances could recall,” the article added, “was her fondness for children.”

Once he was kicked in the eye by a horse, which was perhaps startled by a rattlesnake; that earned him the nickname “One-Eyed Charley,” for the black patch he wore over his left eye.

Parkhurst’s story has long been shrouded in myth and thinly sourced anecdotes. (A well-worn tale has him killing a famous bandit known as Sugarfoot after he held up his stagecoach on the route between Mariposa and Stockton.)

In “Charley’s Choice,” a 2008 work of historical fiction, the writer Fern J. Hill imagines that as a child, Parkhurst told a friend of his dreams of driving a stagecoach. When the friend replied, “You can’t, you’re a girl,” young Charley decided then and there to live as a man.

And in another novel, “The Whip,” by Karen Kondazian (2012), Parkhurst is cast as a straight woman who wanted her freedom, thus being a perfect example of stolen history. “I would have done that,” Ms. Kondazian said in a telephone interview.  “I would have probably put on men’s clothes, to be free like a man.”  She added: “You can kind of use her in any way you want, because we don’t have the total facts about her.” thus indicating that she has no respect for transgender history in the face of obvious facts of his life.

Some historians say that had Parkhurst lived today, he might well have identified as gay or transgender. “Being gay at that time was seen as negative,” said Mark Jarrett, a textbook publisher who included Parkhurst in a new book intended to comply with a California law requiring social studies curriculums to recognize the historical role of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people.

“It was illegal, it was a crime,” he said, “so people didn’t go around professing what their real identities were. They were hidden identities.”

In the late 1860s, with the growing popularity of railroads, stagecoach driving became a dying profession. Parkhurst retired and opened a saloon for a time, and also worked as a lumberjack in Northern California.  After he died, The Santa Cruz Sentinel wrote, “Her accumulations were regular and her wealth considerable at the time of her death, which took place in a lonely cabin, with no one near and her secret her own.”

Parkhurst could claim one other distinction: An 1867 registry in Santa Cruz County lists a Charles Darkey Parkhurst from New Hampshire as having registered to vote — more than 50 years before the 19th Amendment gave women the franchise nation wide. While there is no evidence he voted in the 1868 presidential election, his gravestone in Watsonville, misgendering him and stealing our history is etched with these words: “The First Woman to Vote in the U.S.” (The claim is known to be wrong as women held the franchise in New Jersey until they lost that right in 1807.)

Even in the 19th century, however, there was admiration for Parkhurst’s successful transition and stealth life, if not actually understanding the nature of transgender experience and identity,

“The only people who have occasion to be disturbed by the career of Charley Parkhurst are the gentlemen who have so much to say about ‘woman’s sphere’ and ‘the weaker vessel,’ ” The Providence Journal wrote. “It is beyond question that one of the soberest, pleasantest, most expert drivers in this State, and one of the most celebrated of the world-famed California drivers was a woman. And is it not true that a woman has done what a woman can do?”

Original Obit:

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/12/05/obituaries/charley-parkhurst-overlooked.html

Further Reading:

Stolen History

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Review: “Romanoffs” Ends in Shameful, Hateful, Transphobic Trope

Posted in Editorial, Film Review by Kay Brown on November 24, 2018

Shame on you Mathew Wiener, and your entire crew!

Spoiler Alert!

The webcast video series Romanoffs ended its eight episode first season finale the other day with a tired, over used transphobic trope of the dysfunctional, murderous transsexual.  Gee… like nobody has ever done that one before!

The series is predicated on showcasing ever more dysfunctional “Romanoffs”.  So, in the season finale, we surely would be seeing the single most ‘effed-up’ human being of all… and what is the most ‘effed-up’ type of person in the mind of the show runners?  Why, a transsexual of course!

In a series of flashbacks that relate the tale that an older woman, Candice, tells to her chance met seat neighbor on a train, we see a back story of a transsexual Romanoff who turns out to be Candice herself.  (The fact that my legal name is Candice and I’m transsexual of about the same age was spooky and disturbing.  OMG!!!  Am I a cliche?)  In the flashbacks, we see how her step-mother, and possibly her father in collusion, murdered her mother and attempted to murder Candice when she was a child.  We see her father’s hateful rejection.  We see Candice’s love affair with a bisexual man end when her lover choses to marry a woman instead of staying with Candice.  Given that this episode is one long series of tired cliches and tropes, we have to have a suicide attempt.  Finally, it turns out that this wasn’t a chance meeting on the train, but carefully arranged and timed so that she could murder her half-brother and recover a Romanoff family heirloom set of earrings that belonged to Candice’s mother, and by right, to her and not to her non-Romanoff step-mother.

In terms of karmic revenge, there was no need to write the episode ending with Candice killing her innocent half-brother by poison on the train to avenge herself against her step-mother.  Simply drugging him would have been enough to allow her to recover her earrings from his luggage.  No, the murder was to cap the episode with the transphobic trope of the evil, mentally ill, transsexual murderer.

Shame on you Mathew Wiener, and your entire crew!

Shame !!!  Shame !!!  Shame !!!!!

Further Reading:

It’s Just a Joke!

Transphobic Film “Humor”

Further External Reading:

https://www.bitchmedia.org/post/end-of-gender-transsexual-killer-strikes-again-sevigny-transphobia

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Transsexuals As Political Pawns

Posted in Editorial by Kay Brown on October 25, 2018

Kay BrownTranssexuals are being threatened by the usual suspects.   The current US Federal Administration is looking to ex-post-facto revoke our post transition legal identities, often directly over-riding our state identification and re-issued birth certificates.  To do this, they would also regulatorily, with no legislative authority, be ignoring tens of thousands of court ordered documentation changes.  Thus, they may huff and puff all they want, but until they get a national law that can pass “strict scrutiny”, this will have no effect on our actual legal status and identification markers.

What the Administration is really suggesting doing is to officially withdraw all Federal agency support to fight against discrimination of transfolk, just as they already have de facto.  This would mean that the Administration, and by extension, the GOP, is declaring to their hateful, deplorable, base that they are delivering on their promise to “Make America Great Again”… back to the days when transfolk, especially transkids in school are once again fair game for bullies and their ‘phobic schoolmaster enablers.

Fortunately, the States still have the right to protect us, as some have.  Thank goodness I live in California.  Sadly, many live in states where they offer no protections.  This is where we as transactivists need to put our efforts in the near future.

There is only ONE Federal department which can, if the Administration chooses to use it, hurt our legal status and identification documents, the State Department which issues passports.  Interestingly, it was the State Department which was the FIRST governmental agency to grant identification recognizing our post-transition status in 1953 when it issued a new passport to Christine Jorgensen so that she could return home.  Since then, post-op transfolk needed only to provide documentation attesting to that fact to get their new or re-issued passport in their new name and sex, good for the standard ten years.  Some time later, the policy was updated to allow transfolk in transition to get a new passport good for two years.

Having the ability to get a passport meant being able to show ID that matched one’s current social status even if their home state wouldn’t provide new ID.  It was literally a life saver for many… as it meant being able show it to employers and even law enforcement.  (Recall that many cities still had so-called “anti-impersonation” laws used to criminalize and harass transgender citizens until the ’80s.)

If this Administration attempts to change State Department policy that has been in effect for 65 years now with no problems… well… then we will see just what happens when pawns fight back.  They think we are weak, an easy political target.  This is a long game… a game of chess…

Remember what can happen when a pawn reaches the last rank:

Pawn Promoted to Queen, CheckMate !!!

 

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Kenneth Zucker Vindicated

Posted in Editorial by Kay Brown on October 11, 2018

phrenologyCAMH has issued a public apology for publishing false and defamatory statements about Dr. Zucker and his methods in treating transkids.  (I’ll hold my breath waiting for our community to do the same….)  As part of the vindication, CAMH is paying over half a million dollars as reparations and legal costs.

 

External Reading:

https://www.camh.ca/en/camh-news-and-stories/camh-apology

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Why Transgender Folk Hate Scientists

Posted in Editorial by Kay Brown on September 18, 2018

27867072_1811649452220144_4426664495691531655_nBlanchard, Bailey, & Lawrence… just listing them evokes waves of antipathy in the transgender communities, especially among late transitioning transwomen.  Ask many of them and you will be told that these three are hateful transphobes… in spite of copious evidence to the contrary.  But why?

A recent paper (Hannikainen 2018) explores the issue of lay people conflating the results of science research with the scientist’s ideology.  The study showed that there is a tendency to ascribe motivation “to prove” an hypotheses rather than simply to test one.  Further, this tendency, this effect, was more pronounced if the results, the data, were disagreeable to the individual evaluating the scientist by his results.

As Voldesolo wrote,

“This is a dim and dangerous view of science, and one that no doubt contributes to the increasing politicization of the field. If results discordant with our preferred worldviews can be cast as the workings of an ideologue in a lab coat, then reactions to research will increasingly polarize. The possibility for empirical truths to accurately inform our views erodes, and a shared understanding of the means by which we discover truth is undermined. If we turn to the results of studies to determine our level of credence, as opposed to the methods by which those results were achieved, then science becomes a breeding ground for our biases as opposed to their antidote.”

Thus, many transwomen hate Blanchard, Bailey, and Lawrence not because of who they are or how they feel about transfolk (which is actually fairly positive and supportive) but on the unpleasant truths that they discovered and wrote about.

Let me state it plain and clear:  The truth is the truth no matter who researches or writes about it.  Further, seeking to demonize scientists who discover a truth that is unpleasant is both despicable and self-defeating because the truth will out.  Shooting the messenger will not change the truth.

Further Reading:

Essay on transactivists reactions to Anne Lawrence conducting research

Further External Reading:

The Danger of Judging Scientists By What They Discover

Reference:

Hannikainen, Ivar. 2018. “Ideology Between the Lines: Lay Inferences About Scientists’ Values and Motives.” PsyArXiv. July 1. doi:10.31234/osf.io/gyk26.

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Misplaced Moralizing

Posted in Autobiographical, Editorial by Kay Brown on August 28, 2018

Kay BrownOr…  #MeToo & #WhyIDidntReport

The other day, a non-transwoman on a “gender critical” (which usually means “transgender belittle”) forum hatefully misinterpreted a passing remark in one of my essays about maintaining safety and privacy when dating as a teenaged MTF transkid.  She very nastily described stealth, passing, transwomen not telling their dates that they are trans as “rapey”.

No, “rapey” is…

a man inviting a 20-year-old transwoman who had just moved into the low rent flat a couple doors down to watch some TV during a quiet summer saturday afternoon.  In the middle of a program, without saying a word, he unzips his pants, pulls out his penis and proceeds to masturbate.  Without saying a word, she leaves the room to return to her own room and locks the door.

“Rapey” is…

a tall, above 6′, very strong-looking man in his early 30s following a 5’7″, 140lb, 19-year-old transwoman, in a mid-thigh length dress and light sweater, off the bus at night, on her way home from her job as a secretary, following her only a few paces behind her duplicating each turn down deserted streets toward her suburban apartment obviously looking for a dark corner.  That young transwoman, steeling her nerves, turns to confront the man hoping that a brave face will deter the attack she knows must be coming, saying “I wouldn’t do that if I were you.”

“Whose going to stop me?” he says haughtily, tilting his head up to show his disdain.  The transwoman, having confirmation that this man does indeed intend to rape her and seeing her opportunity for surprise, folds the fingers of her hand to form a sharp edge of her knuckles and strikes him in the throat, turns and flees as fast as she can for the final few yards for her apartment door, her hands shaking so badly that she drops her keys before finally getting the door open, slips into the apartment, slams, locks, and bolts the door!

“Rapey” is…

a coworker grabbing a 21 year old transwoman in the hallway at work as she comes out of the women’s room, dragging her kicking and screaming to the men’s room while repeating over and over “It will be alright,” in a sick twisted “calming” voice.  In the doorway to the men’s room he pulls up her calf-length skirt, pulls down her panties and grabs her… oops… pre-op genitalia which he hadn’t expected.  At that moment she shakes loose, bolts down the hallway, enters a room and locks the door behind her.  She waits for an hour before peeking out the door then runs full tilt for the parking lot and drives home still shaking.

Rape Culture…

is telling management about the attack, where upon, she is taken to a dimly lit room with only one chair to be interrogated by two men looming over her.  Her request that she speak to a woman is denied.  After scoffing at her account she is fired a few days later.

Rape is….

…having fallen asleep on the couch at a stranger’s apartment because your date doesn’t want to go home yet.  Rape is when the occupant of that apartment, now that she is alone there, her date leaving her still sleeping, wakes that 20 year old transwoman by forcefully ripping her clothes off, dragging & throwing her on his bed naked, and forcing his penis into her anus… all the while she is screaming at the top of her lungs for help which never comes as he keeps talking like he is making love to her.  She kicks and tries to bite him but he is far too big, strong, and holds her two wrists in one large and very strong hand.  She is sobbing when he is done… only he isn’t.  Still holding her wrists above her head, drags her to the shower where using soap washes her off, removing the ‘evidence’ of his crime.  He follows this by fondling and attempting to masturbate her pre-op genitalia with soap lathered hands.  She sobs, horrified and shamed all over again as he does so.  The soap gets onto her wrists which allows her to slip his grip and push away from him.  She runs to her clothes, dodging the man by jumping over his couch, and runs out the door in a state of mostly undress, and keeps running several blocks before stopping to dress herself.  She makes her way home on foot in the menacing dark, puts on her least attractive sleepwear, and stares unseeing at the wall huddled protectively to herself until dawn.

Rape Culture is…

knowing that she can’t go to the police to press charges because she knows what happens to women… how they get revictimized and retraumatized though the whole process… how their sexual history gets dragged out in court to make her look like a slut.  Take that public slut shaming defense tactic and imagine what the press coverage of the “alleged rape” of a 20 year old “boy” who looks and acts like an attractive girl would be like in 1977.

That’s “rapey”.

Rape is…

… a 21 year old transwoman feels the knife at her throat wielded by a stranger who forces her to perform oral sex on him… while hoping against hope that she will still be alive when he is finished… and hopes that he doesn’t find out that she is trans… ’cause that’s how transwomen end up as the headline reads “Man Found Dead In Dress”.

Yes, that’s definitely “rapey”.

That transwoman in each of these incidents was me!

So don’t you DARE presume to some higher moral ground to tell ME that accepting an invitation to share dinner, or go to the park, to bike riding, or to the beach… without outing oneself as trans to him is “rapey” !  Oh that poor man…he had a pleasant time with a woman he never knew was a transwoman.  How horrible!  He doesn’t know how very traumatized he isn’t!

Rape is immoral because it is traumatizing, degrading, and demeaning.  By conflating transwomen maintaining their privacy for either safety or self-esteem reasons until they are certain that they wish to share that medical history with a prospective romantic partner with rape they are not expressing valid moral reasoning but simple trans and homophobia.   It relies on the notion that for a straight man to be romantically involved with an androphilic transwoman, no matter how physically and behaviorially feminine, no matter how desirable a personality or moral character, he is demeaned by the experience.  He becomes less of a man, either homosexual, clueless, or both, a figure of ridicule, while the transwoman is to be despised as a liar and a cheat, as well as an effeminate (misogyny) homosexual (homophobia).  The meme disparages both parties, increasing the discrimination that androphilic tranwomen experience and the likelihood of being severely beaten and murdered by transphobic straight men who find themselves attracted to such transwomen (whether or not they knew beforehand).  This meme is deadly to androphilic transwomen (no hyperbole).

Further Reading:

Essay on how androphilic transwomen are at high risk of transphobic violence from straight men.

Essay on transphobic jokes and memes that falsely portray androphilic transwomen as sexual predators

Essay on gynandromorphophilic transsexual attempting to coerce androphilic transwomen to have sex, including this author.

Further External Reading:

What is ‘second rape’ and what can we do about it?

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