On the Science of Changing Sex

What Might Have Been…

Posted in Transgender Youth by Kay Brown on January 30, 2018

… if Western society truly accepted MTF transkids



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Chelsea Manning is NOT the Hero…

Posted in Editorial by Kay Brown on January 13, 2018

Chelsea Manning is NOT the Hero of the transgender community.

Kay BrownNews today is that Chelsea Manning is running for Senator for Maryland.  I was shocked. Surely a convicted traitor could not run for such an office.  Well, imagine my surprise when I learned that our constitution does not prohibit felons from seeking federal office.

Manning is an embarrassment to our community.  Manning gives us all a black eye.  Manning knowingly put her fellow soldiers at extreme risk by turning spy for Wikileaks.  Many may attempt to portray her as a “whistle-blower” but that is a false picture.  She released far too many documents to have carefully considered the potential damage and danger for each one.  She did not point out specific wrong doings… she released documents en mass to our enemies.  She just said “fuck you” to her responsibilities and her oath to defend the United States and our constitution.

Wikileaks is NOT our friend.  Wikileaks has deep connections to Russia and other autocratic states that are not our allies.  Wikileaks is headed by Assange, a man who is hiding in an Ecuadorean embassy to avoid facing criminal charges of espionage and rape.  Wikileaks is very selective in what it leaks to the press and the world.  If it will hurt the United States… it get’s released.  If it will hurt certain candidates that the Russians don’t like, it get’s released.

Remember this as you think of Chelsea Manning.  She is NOT a hero.  She is (indirectly) a tool of the Russian state.

At a time when the transcommunity is struggling to prove to the nation that transfolk can serve honorably in the military, Manning is not a shining example.  If she really cared about the community, she would know she should take a low profile but instead…

Chelsea Manning portrays herself as a “transactivist”…

I don’t know about you.  But I’m sick to death of people who transition and within hours of doing so, declare that they are “transactivists”.  No, she is NOT.  She has done NOTHING to help transfolk.  She is not Shannon Minter.  She is NOT Joanna Michelle Clark.  She did NOT pound the streets fighting anti-LGBT laws.  She did NOT found, nor work for, organizations like the ACLU Transsexual Rights Committee.  Just because she is trans is no reason to hail her as a hero.

She is an embarrassing self promoter to whom I say,


(Addendum 7/1/2018:  Manning lost her bid in the primary, garnering only 5.7% of the vote.  HURRAY ! )

(Addendum 3/8/2019:  Manning is now in jail for contempt!  She continues to be a traitor with respect to WikiLeaks.)

(Addendum 4/11/2019:  Manning is still in jail and now Assange is in custody.  I look forward to further developments.)

Further Reading:

Essay on REAL heroic veterans turned transactivists

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The Silencing of the Transkids, Part 3

Posted in Editorial by Kay Brown on January 12, 2018

Or, Empathy Target Location Error

For a number of people, the plight of gender atypical and dysphoric children and teens is so alien to their understanding and experience that they quite literally can’t see the world from the point of view of transkids.  The ability to empathize, to place one’s self into the shoes of another, is of utmost importance in life.  Without it, we all would be sociopaths without a conscience, willing to allow untold suffering in others without making any effort to alleviate it.  But because many people can’t do that with transkids, they substitute an over-simplification of the Golden Rule… instead of treating others as those others would see us do, they treat transkids as they would like themselves to be treated.  That is to say, instead of walking a mile in transkids shoes, they put their own shoes onto transkids; And when they see them in their imaginations, stumble with their illfitting shoes as their parents and caregivers attempt to help alleviate their dysphoria and lead a fulfilling life, cry,

Child abuse!

Further Reading:

Advice to Parents of Transkids – a source of knowledge useful to gaining a true understanding and empathy for transkids.

Op-Ed by Dawn Foster

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The Silencing of The Transkids, Part 2

Posted in Editorial by Kay Brown on January 12, 2018

Or, My Tribe, Right Or Wrong

There is a behavior that is common in human societies of preferring those like themselves.  In modern cant we call this tendency ‘tribalism’.  This extends to liking and preferring that people become more like themselves and believing that their way of life is better than others.  This is the flip side of nearly all prejudice.  This tendency means that if an outgroup can’t become like the ingroup because of genetic / biological barriers like the color of one’s skin or one’s sex, then it leads to racism or sexism.  However, if the difference can be (or simply perceived to be) merely one of lifestyle or choice, then it can develop into an insistence that members of the outgroup must change their lifestyle or choices.  If the difference develops from within an ingroup to become a subgroup or to join an outgroup, these individuals are considered ‘traitors’ to the ingroup.

An example of this prejudice and it’s flip side is the need to convince others to either join in the ingroup (e.g. religious evangelism) or to punish those who leave the ingroup (e.g. death sentences for apostates).

Such is the experience of LGBT folk.

Homophobia is due in part to the anger and need to punish the ‘traitorous’ action of not being heterosexual, of becoming a member of a despised outgroup.  This is why families can be the source of the more virulent hate that LGBT folk can experience.

This feeling of being betrayed and of loathing of those who fail to join or remain in the ingroup is also part of transphobia, including by non-trans members of the gay, lesbian, and bisexual communities, in fact, especially by gay and lesbian people.

It is well-known now, and often uncomfortably recognized within the gay and lesbian community, that such gay and lesbians were quite gender atypical as children and many remain somewhat gender atypical as adults (excluding their gender atypical sexual orientation).  To some, this recognition and memory of their own childhood before they accommodated to the Western ideal of gender typical acting Gay and Lesbian identities, they look to the androphilic MTF and gynephilic FtM transkids and insist that they too accommodate to that same ideal, regardless of natural proclivities and desires.  After all… they did.  Quite literally, they see transkids in transition as traitors to the modern Western gay and lesbian identity, their tribe.  And their tribe is best.

To these gay and lesbian tribalists, transkids who persist and transition are either victims of an imagined “trangender ideology” or are perverse ‘sinners’ against the true faith of Western Gay and Lesbian lifestyle.  They are truly apostates whose voice must be silenced or devalued.  On the flip side, desisters and detransitioners are seen as having ‘seen the light of the true faith’ and are upheld as proof that gender atypical children can escape, while persisters have been led astray by, that evil “transgender ideology”.  Some even carry banners at Pride events claiming that “transgender erases lesbians”.

When I hear these claims, I can’t help but hear another voice from another time, that perhaps these gay and lesbian folks are too young to remember?  I hear Anita Bryant and other homophobes of the late ’70s calling to “Save Our Children”, claiming that gays and lesbians are a danger to children and are “recruiting” otherwise “normal” children into the “homosexual lifestyle” which is part of the “homosexual agenda”.  I hear the exact same ‘phobic lies but today it is from gays and lesbians and their hatred is poured out onto transfolk.

“transgender ideology” <=> “homosexual agenda”

If this seems like it is hyperbolic and specious, one only has to read the comments from many commentators, especially a certain subset of lesbians, that very specifically state that such “transgender ideology” has falsely convinced young gender atypical (i.e. butch) lesbians to believe that they must be transgender.  They also insist that feminine MTF transkids should be taught that not only is OK to be a feminine man (never mind that modern Gay male culture is extremely femmiphobic and gay men won’t be that happy to hear that) but that they should be gender atypical gay men and not trans, not transition to living as women.  That is to say, that this is seen as a cultural war between two tribal identities, two religious identities.

Another example of silencing or devalued is to portray the young transitioning transkids of Iran as doing so only to escape religious discrimination against gays and lesbians.  Such discrimination exists, but the number of such transsexuals transitioning is on the same order as those transitioning in Thailand and FAR fewer than the number of gay and lesbian people in the general population.  This false portrayal of “forced transition” is another example of tribalism using the spector of forced religious conversion coupled with the horror of unwanted body modification.  But the truth is that these young people’s lived experienced is denied and their voices silenced, replaced by their own.

It has always amazed and irritated me that others who don’t experience extreme gender dysphoria tend to tell persisters that it is all because of our false consciousness, patriarchy, internalized homophobia, and/or ‘transgender ideology’.  To folk who don’t like persisting transkids…

Desistence is real.  Persistence is real.  Listen to both.

Further Reading:

Historic Transphobia in the Gay and Lesbian Communities

Detransitioners are not the enemy

Further External Reading:



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The Silencing of the Transkids

Posted in Editorial, Transgender Youth by Kay Brown on January 6, 2018

Transkids after transition

The last few years has seen the issue of gender atypical and gender dysphoric children, often called ‘transkids’ come to the fore in the culture wars.  There are several sides that have argued various positions regarding their appropriate treatment and upbringing.  But what has largely been ignored in this recent series of largely uncivil… I can’t call them discussions… is the voices of transkids and former transkids, both persistors and desistors.  Yes, both have been silenced, their voices unwelcome… because on all sides of the great debate their voices undermine the real, but hidden, goals of the groups.

I will be writing a series of essays on this topic, in bite sized chunks.  This is the first.

First, I must lay out some background and assumptions.  First and foremost is that one cannot understand the current debate and how it has silenced actual transkids without understanding and accepting that there are two (and likely only two) etiologies for two completely separate “transgender spectrums”.  I’ve gone into great detail in my essays posted on this blog on this issue.  So, if you are unfamiliar, please read them.  You may start with my FAQ.  I also highly recommend reading the FAQ and essays found on the transkids.us website.  However, the Cliff Notes version is that most Male-To-Female transsexuals develop out of the autogynephilic cross-dressing population who do NOT experience or express gender atypicality as children or teens and only develop gender dysphoria as full adults.  They typically transition around age 30 and older.  It is these “older transitioners” who are doing most of the loud, angry, “transactivism” regarding transkids.  The reason that they do so was well articulated on the transkids.us website,

“… the most socially and economically advantaged sector of the transsexual population consisted of autogynephilic transsexuals and they found it psychologically and culturally advantageous to embrace an articulation of autogynephilia in terms of a concept of “gender identity” which maintained that one could have an internalized and hidden feminine “gender” while simultaneously living a seemingly normal social and sexual life as a man. Pragmatically, it was expedient to erase the distinctions between types of transsexuals. … given that the “transgender” community is controlled entirely by autogynephilic transsexuals who have a vested interest in this “gender identity.” model and the medical community of surgeons, endocrinologists, and gender therapists, is now tailor built around their needs, both are resistant to any acknowledgement of the {two type taxonomy} or the acknowledgement of homosexual transsexuality as a separate condition.  If {this} understanding of autogynephilia were accepted, it would undermine the “transgendered” community’s construction of gender identity which they view as a route to legitimacy and acceptance. If {transkids) were acknowledged {as a separate group} it would be even more damaging because it would reveal inconsistencies in autogynephilic {transwomen’s} personal narratives and the understanding of their own condition. Since their political and social identity is built around the notion that they were always really “female” because they “feel like women on the inside”, that transkids who present far more cross gender attributes pre-transition, and are more convincing as women post-transition, do not share their unique psychology, would undermine the credibility of the way they think about their own disorder.”

So, with this in mind, we can see that these older transitioning transwomen, who have no relation to transkids, seek to create the impression in the public mind that they would have been such transkids if only our society had been more accepting and willing to let them transition as children.  But this is a only wish fulfillment fantasy.  But understanding this, one can see why they so vehemently DEMAND that there is no such thing as a “desistor”.  There is one and only one kind of transsexual… and that transsexual always was and will forever remain a “woman inside” (or a “man inside” as the case requires).  There is no room for the messiness of real children.  There is certainly no room for acknowledging that their own identities as women didn’t fully develop until well into adulthood.  So, desistors are the worst… as they open the door to understanding that gender identities aren’t magically and forever fixed at birth.

Desistence is real.  Persistence is real.  Listen to both.

Further Reading:

“The Invisible Transsexual”

Transkids.us website

“Age of Innocence” Essay on the age of desistence of transkids.


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